Heres something to consider,
An optimist, when faced with a problem, tends to find the
upside to the situation and starts figuring out ways to
solve that problem, or ways to turn it around. A pessimist,
however, immediately throws up his hands, and yells, "That's
it; it's all over. I can't handle this anymore." Or he will
distance himself from the problem, pretending it doesn't
matter. This is denial, and it never works.
According to the world's foremost expert on optimism, Dr.
Martin Seligman, everyone is born optimistic. And yet, 95%
of grownups are pessimists, not optimists. What goes wrong?
Some people see the glass as half empty. Others see it as
half full. But is it really as simple as that? Is it
possible to be a bit of both?
I catch myself at both sides of the spectrum depending on the subject matter.
When you think about it, most people tend to be an optimist
sometimes and a pessimist other times.
Ironically, a lot of times things turn out according to how we feel
about the situation. If a person feels like something will go well or
feels optimistic about it, it usually seems to go well. The
same is true of the reverse. When someone feels like
something will go badly, it tends to do just that.
An indication that you are dealing with a pessimist is in a
simple phrase they will use in stressful situations - "I
can't". The pessimist is helpless, powerless and it shows
in their response. The optimist responds with - "I can".
The optimist is making a conscious choice, not just
reacting.
An optimist prefers to think more positively. They focus on
what they really want, not what might happen to them.
Think about the following statements:
· Optimists achieve their goals because they never give up
· Optimists attract Success naturally
· Optimists are happier, healthier and more energetic than
pessimists
· Optimists are easier to be around, inspiring people around
to be positive
· Optimists live longer and suffer from fewer and less
severe diseases
· Besides the above, optimists lead higher quality of life.
These are all probably true just by the fact that optimists'
positive thinking makes challenging situations "not that
bad" after all.
Now true optimism is not sitting back, thinking positive
thoughts, and hoping everything will turn out all right.
It's how you see the world, positively rather than
negatively. You face each situation, each problem, and each
occasion with a positive attitude; and you always look
forward to the "benefits" you will derive from it.
You have a choice. "Change your thoughts and change your
world," said Norman Vincent Peale.
What it comes down to is that your attitude is a conscious
choice. If you choose pessimism, you're choosing to see the
down side of every situation, judge people unfairly, and
live unhappily the rest of your life. What an oppressive
existence!
On the other hand, if you choose optimism, you're empowering
yourself to see the positive side of each challenge, seeing
the good in people, helping them to see the good in life
too. Taking action to further improve your own life, and
living happily with friends and family who care about you.
Attracting all good to yourself.
Choosing to be more optimistic and positive does not mean
you won't encounter difficult times, trauma, loss and many
challenges. What it does mean is that you will have more
power on your side to help you through those tough times.
You'll bounce back faster and make better choices, rather
than letting life just wash over you. You'll learn to be
proactive, instead of reactive.
If you're not naturally optimistic and positive, don't
worry. You can learn how to use your thoughts to change
your attitude and emotions. It won't be easy. Some days
will be very challenging, but you can do it. Improving your
optimism rates is one of the most important actions you can
take to improve your life. It doesn't come automatically,
though. It takes effort. It takes deliberate, conscious
awareness of your thoughts and feelings. And then acting on
that awareness.
Each time you think a negative thought, stop right there and
turn it around to find the positive aspect of the situation.
Do this each time and build on it. It will become a habit
to be positive and upbeat about your life.
Here's one starting point:
Practice your 'positive thinking' and your 'positive
feeling'. Give yourself permission to think new thoughts
and feel new feelings.
You can be as optimistic as you want that you will attract
wealth, for that new car or new house. The productive
action helps to push things to that end, and you will get
there.
So I would say to you: Be Optimistic! Expect the best out
of life! Just Think and Act Optimistically.
Truly caring for your success...
action helps to push things to that end, and you will get
there.
So I would say to you: Be Optimistic! Expect the best out
of life! Just Think and Act Optimistically.
